Belinda
the six sessions that students in the "anger management' workshop go through.
Signs of Anger:
where on your body do you feel anger?
mental signs, physical signs (racing heart, tense muscles), emotions, behaviours (eg yelling, throwing)
unsafe for me, unsafe for others
need timeout techniques... needs to be positive time out (no consequences)
What is the "safe place" students say: Vanessa, Tu Roa room, Deanery, outside classroom
(How to get students to communicate that they need to go to safe place or deal with anger... T symbol)
What are our beliefs?
ABC (Activating Belief Consequences ?)
What belief will you "fight for" at all costs? eg for me: hardwork/work ethic, manners/respect, perseverance
Communication styles
- Passive
- Assertive
Being assertive: non-threatening voice, clearly and at normal rate, lower tone.
non-threatening postures, eye-contact, leaning forward, slow gestures, neutral expressions. Use I statements, talk about your feelings (avoid "you" statements as this assigns blame). Be clear about your goals - Aggressive
Compliment Sandwich (assertive way of giving feedback)
praise - criticism - praise
"I can see you are in a really happy mood today,. I really don't like the way you use silly immature language,. I know you want to be nice to others and make friends"
